4 tips, how to keep being passionately in love even after years together and with kids

Day-to-day routine keeping the household, work related stress, taking care of the kids and a million of responsibilities, that we need to take care of. No wonder that we postpone what doesn’t beg for our attention – unfortunately the first to be left behind is the relationship with our partner. It works, so why bother with it now? But after years of sidetracking, it might not have to work anymore. If you still, even with kids, desire to live in a content and happy partnership full of trust, understanding and, yes, even love, I have a few tips for you. It’s nothing complicated but the quality of your relationship will drastically improve.

When you met each other, you did lots of things out of love. You wanted to simply make the other person happy and do something for him without expectations of getting something in return. That was the magical passion of love, the butterflies in stomach, that in time flew somewhere away.

And why? Because after the years together we stop to give without wanting something in return and increasingly we start to make deals – I’ll do something for you, but I expect that you will do something for me. If you disappoint me, don’t expect anything from me in the future.

But trust me, even if you think that the passion of love is long gone, you need only a little and your relationship can revive to be passionate as it was in the beginning. Here are my 4 tips for how to reignite and deepen love, even after years together and with kids:

1. Take care of yourself, do things that make you happy, so that you don’t have to expect somebody else to make you happy.
2. Remember what you used to bring to the relationship when the initial passion of love reigned over it – what you did in the beginning for your partner just because you wanted to, how much attention he was given, how you behaved towards him, how you spoke about him, how you talked with him, how you touched him, how you made him happy with the small stuff. Choose three things, that you used to do in the beginning and slowly start to reintroduce them in your relationship.
3. Create a mindful, together time and don’t forget to put away things that could disturb you – phones, kids ???? But do not have expectations about what should happen. Let the together time bring what it may, even if it’s seemingly negative – a disagreement.
  During these precious moments, when you are focused solely on each other, comes the time for issues that you put off when running “business as usual“. If lately you had mostly negative experiences, it is important to find the time to address them.
4. Write down 30 things, that you admire on your partner or 30 moments from your live together when you felt beautifully, when you have looked up to your partner and you felt loved. And at any time, you can add more. This list will help you in tough times, when you’ll feel like you are disconnecting, and the love dwindles.

These 4 tips are directly from my personal experience, and I am doing my best to adhere to them. I believe that thanks to these tips, my husband and I have managed to keep our relationship alive and full of love for 8 years. Despite work, daily responsibilities and 3 small children. Feel free to message me on Facebook or Instagram if these tips helped you. It’ll make my day.